4 Surprising reminders that challenge the belief in dishing out kindness to everyone
Self care isn’t selfish!!
It’s the craziest thing! SURVIVOR WAS #3 yesterday and when I stopped in the Vero Beach Book Center this morning I saw it had reached #1!!! Great surprise!!!
It was just a couple of years ago when we found this amazing B and B….
Jane Faraco is the author of SURVIVOR, a very personal memoir of a sweet looking, sad eyed child who graces the cover.
Her daddy drank and so began the cover up.
There were always secrets. “No one must know. Never tell a soul.” In her memoir she does tell, she shares with you her struggles and the secrets about everything!
SURVIVOR, tells the story of her life as a child of a successful, yet emotionally abusive Irish-American, serious binge drinker and a extremely chilly, highly aristocratic mother who had little time or interest in her child. Having had little nurturing and less in the way of guidance, Jane was confused about who she was or about how to be.
She nurtured herself by binge eating. At eight, she discovered the sleep inducing effects of Dramamine, at twelve, amphetamines, much later, pot and alcohol with a cast of characters in Bucks County, Pennsylvania, the Hamptons and finally in Summerplace in Vero Beach. The addiction was always to more, more of everything and to serious partying. Roles were played, mistakes were made, disasters happened, times were high – too high.
When the pain was so great, she thought she might never climb out of it she found a recovery group and the love and nurturing she had always longed for, who she was underneath it all and in the end, the love and the willingness to help others.
She knew she had a story to tell and the ability to tell it. And so began her writing journey. When this very personal writing got tough, the idea that it might help others pushed her on. Jane has gone from merely surviving to absolutely thriving.
It turns out SURVIVOR is a, “cant put it down, page turner.”
Jane and her husband Jim have lived in VERO Beach for 14 years.
For information about SURVIVOR Book Study Groups and Speaking Engagements, please contact Jane at
SURVIVOR is available at The VERO Beach Book Center and AMAZON.
You will need mentors. You will need friends.
I tell my medical students to appoint a “board of directors” — three to five people — to guide their decisions on career and life. I also tell them to build at least three communities of friends. The communities can be work, a church, golf buddies, dance friends, etc. If you lose one community from job loss, retirement or divorce, you have others to support you. Also, having large, diverse groups of friends makes life more fun and interesting. — James Horton, 67
Find life mentors, not just career mentors. Find people who are good at the art of living, the wise ones, and tell them you want them to be available. They do not need to be friends. Then keep in touch, watch them, listen to them, learn from them. Steer clear of people who are paid to do this or imagine themselves to be gurus. Steer clear of anyone with too high opinion of himself or herself, lacking in self-deprecation or a sense of humor. Find the authentic ones who are a bit surprised you picked them out. You need several. I have been lucky enough to find them. They have made all the difference. — Patricia Hunt, 72